Tripp on Inability in Parenting

“Inability doesn’t mean that God has made a massive mistake by giving you children, that somehow he’s gotten the wrong address and your children would be better off elsewhere. Rather than your inability being in the way of God’s plan, it is part of his plan. He knows that parents who admit that they are inadequate and run to God make the best parents. You see, he doesn’t ask you to be able; he asks you to be willing. If you are willing, he will meet you in your weakness and change you, and as he changes you, he will work good things through you into the hearts and lives of your children.”

Paul Tripp in Parenting

Miller on Love

“You endure the weight of love by being rooted in God. Your life energy needs to come from God, not the person you are loving. The more difficult the situation, the more you are forced into utter dependence on God. That is the crucible of love, where self-confidence and pride are stripped away, because you simply do not have the power or wisdom or ability in yourself to love.”

Paul Miller in A Loving Life

Naselli on Calibrating One’s Conscience

“As you come to understand God’s will more and more, you must do the hard work of continually adding rules to your conscience that God’s Word says should be there and continually weeding out rules from your conscience that should not be there. This will take your entire life, but you have the Holy Spirit and the Word of God to help you. God is the only Lord of your conscience.”

Andrew Naselli in Conscience

Beeke on Punishment in Parenting

“We have not been given such judicial authority over our children; we have a very different calling as parents, namely, to train and nurture our covenant children. The chastening of sons described in Hebrews 12 contrasts sharply with the judicial punishment of sin in the death of Christ described elsewhere in the same epistle. As parents, we must forsake wrath and even the least idea of taking vengeance on our children. The punishment we administer is intended to do good to them, teaching them to hate sin and flee from it, and training them to love doing what is right. Restoration and renewal are the goals, not retribution and revenge.”

Joel Beeke in Parenting by God’s Promises

Beeke on Church Leaders and Parenting

“Those of us who are church leaders err when we heap guilt on parents who have conscientiously raised their children in the fear of the Lord, only to see one of them go astray. We should exercise compassion in such cases and remember, as parents, that we may face the same trial in our own homes someday. It is not uncommon for children to at least challenge our authority periodically, even if they do not break out into acts of rebellion. During those times, we need faith to persevere in upholding the authority of God’s Word and exercising our authority as loving rulers in our homes. We must pray for wisdom, and, as always, keep praying that Christ our King will work in our children’s hearts by His Word and Spirit, and that He will prevail, bringing them into subjection to Himself.”

Joel Beeke in Parenting

Martin on Hurt and Forgiveness

“In the mess of church life, where we ricochet between a various assortment of church hurts, we’re failing at something far more significant than sinning against our brothers and sisters. We’re forgetting the reason we’re even able to call them brothers and sisters. We’re forgetting that because of Jesus, we share a brotherhood with eternal continuity due to the commonality we share in Christ. Has that ever occurred to you? Sometimes it feels as if the easiest thing to do when someone has slandered or gossiped against you is to break ties and run like a screaming hyena out of the foyer and speed away. Maybe the hurt from a trusted friend cut so deep that you don’t know how to move on, forgive, or trust him ever again. In the moment, these torturous thoughts and erratic emotions are hard to move past. But they’re problematic for the long term because this person who sinned grievously against you is someone who has also been forgiven for past, present, and future sins. Like you.”

Ronnie Martin in The Bride(zilla) of Christ