“You endure the weight of love by being rooted in God. Your life energy needs to come from God, not the person you are loving. The more difficult the situation, the more you are forced into utter dependence on God. That is the crucible of love, where self-confidence and pride are stripped away, because you simply do not have the power or wisdom or ability in yourself to love.”
Paul Miller in A Loving Life
In this chapter, Murray focuses our thoughts on our dependence on God as His creatures. In our current society, the word “dependent” carries negative connotations of being helpless or useless. A quick look at government forms and applications would show that being a dependent implies that the individual is considered somewhat of a burden to others and society. Furthermore, our culture tells us to stand up and fight for what we supposedly deserve. Murray, however, reminds us that the root of our identity lies in our dependence on God (para 26). Instead of trying to grapple and struggle to gain our desires and wants, why don’t we go back to the Father who dispenses His manifold graces and blessings freely? Murray celebrates the fact that we can be utterly dependent on God for everything without worrying that He is unwilling or unable to provide for our needs.