Beeke on Punishment in Parenting

“We have not been given such judicial authority over our children; we have a very different calling as parents, namely, to train and nurture our covenant children. The chastening of sons described in Hebrews 12 contrasts sharply with the judicial punishment of sin in the death of Christ described elsewhere in the same epistle. As parents, we must forsake wrath and even the least idea of taking vengeance on our children. The punishment we administer is intended to do good to them, teaching them to hate sin and flee from it, and training them to love doing what is right. Restoration and renewal are the goals, not retribution and revenge.”

Joel Beeke in Parenting by God’s Promises